Dear Helen

My Mother – Helen – 1933 – 2012

Helen at 15 years

Mom, you taught me many things.

You taught me how to bake a chocolate cake. (I still can’t figure out how that box of toothpicks got inside, but at least they were evenly distributed throughout the cake)

You taught me how to iron a shirt to perfection. (starch: heavy on the collar, medium on the cuffs, and light down the placket) I find this technique holds up well on film shoots.

And oh, you taught me how I shouldn’t  iron socks. (as I watched you scrape the melted mess off an iron’s hot metal face)

You taught me how to put make-up on,

How to curl my hair

How to manicure my nails

How to walk in high-heels

How to accessorize my outfits.

You taught me love, and the power it wields!

Wow, you’re Awesome!

All my Love Forever,

Resa

NOTHING BUT THE BLUES

Below is a picture taken from my mother’s hospice room.

Her view was the rear entrance to the club “Nothing But The Blues”

I looked at it for weeks then even though I’m not a poet, a poem fell out of me.

I see nothing

But the Blues.

I want to

Run away.

My pain has

Become shame

And Good girl

Is a sinner

Who sees nothing

But the Blues

From her mother’s window.

Eyes are

Windows to

And from

The soul.

She looks out,

I look in.

She does not

See me,

Know me,

Want me.

I look in

and see nothing

But The Blues

Through my

Mother’s windows.

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63 THOUGHTS ON “DEAR HELEN,”

  1. Beautiful, thank you for posting this!

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  2. May she rest in heaven’s perfect And blissful peace. This is a beautiful tribute Resa, I am certain your mom approves.

    Hugs and love

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  3. I’m sorry for your loss Resa. Your mum was a pretty woman, and you wrote a great poem.

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  4. Such a pretty, gentle woman; such sweetness and naivety. So still too; she has a wonderful sense of calm. She and you remind me of myself and my daughter. Opposites in so many delightful ways. She quiet and subdued; you outgoing, open and creatively loud… Within you though, are her qualities too. They are not always on show; oh no; yet they are there. Known, yet not evidenced openly. That is something that cannot be removed; those parts of those we love that are integral to our being…. xoxoxo

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  5. Such a lovely tribute, Resa.

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  6. I think great love brings out the poet within us. A fine poem, may she always be in your heart.

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  7. There are not enough words to express my deepest sympathy to you Resa. You have written some beautiful words and it could not have been easy to do this. My deepest regards. Virginia

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  8. I left a comment and it disappeared, so I apologize if you get two. This is a beautiful tribute to your mom and I picture her smiling down on you. I love the photo – light on makeup and beautiful inside and out. (((HUGS)))

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  9. Loreen Lightfootsaid:

    November 5, 2012 at 9:04 pm

    Thanks Resa, what a great tribute and beautiful photo. Lots of love to you xoxoxoxo

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  10. Dear Resa,

    I’m so very sorry to hear about your mother. Thank you for sharing the lovely photo of her. She was beautiful.

    Your tribute poem is a treasure. Marvelous.

    Hugs and cozy blankets wrapped round, to you from your friend on the patio. ~Lori

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  11. Oh Resa ~ my heart just jumped out of me — and kissed your cheek. I am so sorry for this loss… I know and feel the love you feel for your beautiful mom… through your words.. and through sharing your journey as you sat by her side these last few months… She will live on ~ never die as your heart holds her memory close for the rest of your days. Your writing was obviously Divinely inspired – gorgeous poem ~ tears … and Love ~ x Robyn

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  12. Sorry for your loss, Resa – even it’s a hard time for you so you have found the strength to make such a wonderful tribute – bring you all the feelings of all the good memories you have – remember everything you’ve got during time and not focus on all that you’ve lost – memories is within you and and will be there always – best wishes… :-)

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  13. The poem took my breath away, Resa. You’ll carry your momma’s spark around with you wherever you go. Her Beauty. May you be comforted!

    (from a friend of Lori on the patio)

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    • Thank you Robin! How wonderful of you to drop by with your condolences. Yes, mom is passed away, but it seems like I feel her more intensely than ever. I am comforted, and any friend of Lori’s is a friend of mine. I’ll be by to say hi to you soon!

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  14. I knew this was coming Resa, but it still breaks my heart that it had to come. Your poem is beautiful, as is your Mum. I wish I could hug you, although it would be a soggy sort of hug just at the moment. But in lieu of that, I want to offer you another poem, by the wonderful Joyce Grenfell, which I’m sure is how your Mum felt.

    If I should go before the rest of you
    Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone
    Nor when I’m gone speak in a Sunday voice
    But be the usual selves that I have known
    Weep if you must
    Parting is hell
    But life goes on
    So sing as well.

    Joyce Grenfell

    thinking of you today and always, Imelda

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  15. Resa – I’m out of the country and just checked in to find this post. Such a beautiful tribute, and my heart is with you.

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  16. Oh Boomer, thank you for saying your heart is with me! I’m glad you like my tribute. I had to do something. Be safe while you’re away!

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  17. This is heartbreakingly lovely, Resa. XOX

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  18. Oh Resa! You brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful tribute to a beautiful woman. I am so sorry for your loss.

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  19. Harriet Brusersaid:

    November 17, 2012 at 12:30 pm

    So beautiful Resa. Love you.

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  20. I know what you mean, Resa – good to share this – thanks

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  21. Hi I hope you don’t mind – but I have nominated you for ‘The Blog of the Year Award 2012′. The details are on my page at http://worldlywinds.com/2012/11/22/blog-of-the-year-2012/
    If you do not participate in the awards system then I apologise for inconveniencing you – and please feel free to accept or decline as you wish. I just wanted to say thank you for following my ramblings and thank you for inspiring me with your work! Alex :)

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  22. I feel sad for your loss. I lost my father in 2010, I know how it feels…

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  23. Ma très chère Resa,
    J’étais si loin … mais avec toi nuit et jour durant toutes ces semaines très difficiles que tu as vécues.
    Tu sais que tu pourras toujours compter sur moi.
    Avec toute mon amitié profonde,
    H&K&L
    Eric

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  24. I’ve missed these last few posts. I’m not good with the reader and am now also following by mail (I think).
    The cyber world is a strange beast. Though I’ve never met you, I see you as a bright spark and that spark has drifted into my world. Thank you. I truly feel for your loss and wish you the best Resa. xo wendy

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  25. Don’t you wish our parents lived forever. Truly sad for your lost, she is peace now but watching over you in spirit. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal post. All the best, Jenny

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  26. Yes, I wish my mom was still here. Thank you for taking a moment with your kind words!

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  27. Your mom was so beautiful… Your poem is very touching and deep…it reminds me of my mom too (1934-2002)
    You’re so sweet! xoxo

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2 thoughts on “Dear Helen”

  1. Lots of hard loss for you Resa and lots of beauty you create from it too like this poem~ ❤ ❤

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